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Decide what you are looking for in a companion. Which traits are important to you and in how you live your own life? Make a mental list, but don’t expect people to have their guard down at a first meeting. Follow your instinct, but do allow people a chance to show you who they really are. |
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A great question to ask yourself is where you see yourself in a couple years. If you’re a planner with a focus on marriage and family then your attitude toward dating will be more serious in achieving those goals. You’ll tend to be more selective in terms of looking for a close match to your “traits list”. If you are more laid back and looking to meet lots of people for fun, then you’ll probably take more chances and even date people that don’t match your “traits” list. |
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Make sure you are completely over any past relationship and emotionally ready to begin a new one. A positive state of mind will allow you to handle disappointment as well as remain selective in what you are looking for. |
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Make a change. Get a haircut, get a makeover, start eating healthier and exercising. When you start paying attention to how you can improve yourself you will jump start your self confidence. Your increased confidence will in turn make you more attractive to others. |
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Seek out those whom you have a good chance of connecting with. Not to say “aim low”, but aim for commonality. If you’re a simple person who doesn’t care much for material things, don’t follow the financial wizard/yacht owner around the party with hopes he’ll notice you. Yes, opposites do sometimes attract, but having things in common can form a lasting bond.
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Become a member of a gym, a book club, a sports team or social club relating to your interests or hobbies. This is a great way to meet people who have something in common with you which is a great place to start. |
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Enjoy dating for what it is – meeting new people and having new experiences. You may not find the mate that makes you weak in the knees right away, but you may make some great friends. |
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Don’t be afraid to decline an invitation if that’s what your instincts tell you; however, don’t overlook someone just because they don’t fit the image you had in your mind. |
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Be sure to have fun, but juggling too many dates at once can become confusing and unproductive. It is good to have many first and second dates to help “sift” out those who aren’t a good match. However, allow yourself the chance to focus on one person at a time. |
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Lastly, just be yourself. Be confident and let them get to know who you are and all you have to offer. |
GOOD LUCK AND HAVE FUN! |